Pride
and humility are opposites and we can have great difficulty when pride takes
over. It is important in our lives to be
humble and not to trumpet what we do and are too strongly. Humility is a necessary part of being
Christian. It is certainly essential if
we are going to attract others into our family.
Jesus told a wonderful parable about humility when he went to the
Pharisee’s house for dinner. He told
them:
When you are invited by someone to a wedding banquet
do not sit down at the place of honor, in case someone more distinguished than you has been invited by your host; and the
host who invited both of you may come and say to you, `Give
this person your place,' and then in disgrace you would start
to take the lowest place. But when you are invited, go and sit
down at the lowest place, so that when your host comes, he may
say to you, `Friend, move up higher'; then you will be honored
in the presence of all who sit at the table with you. For all who
exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble
themselves will be exalted.
Part of our problem is that we are afraid if we “sit in the
lowest place” that no host will come to tell us to “come up higher”; but that
is a product of our pride. When we are
living in humility, we won’t even think about where it is that we are
sitting. When we are able to put
ourselves in the place of the poor, the outcast, the lame and the blind, who
Jesus tells us to invite to our dinners, sitting in the lowest place is the
best thing that we can do.
This
is a story that Jesus tells his followers to give them a style of living that
will be attractive to everyone who watches.
Unfortunately, it isn’t the style that Christianity has often
adopted. Instead, we have become
sometimes overly prideful and want to compete with each other to attract people
to our churches. That is certainly a
human characteristic, but it isn’t a very attractive one.
I
have been in worship services, where I felt very much out of place because the
behavior of the people in the congregation made it clear that their way of
worship was the only approved method. My
lack of comfort would have driven me away if it hadn’t been necessary for me to
be present in those places because of my work.
I don’t feel that way anymore because our worship services have been
made more comfortable and I don’t feel anymore that I am not welcome. That is probably the most important thing
that we are doing in our worship services.
It reflects the way that we live with each other. Humility needs to be paramount if we are
going to make people comfortable and attract them to our communities.